Sex and Relationships...

If you’re dating someone just to reap the sexual benefits of the relationship; there are multiple reasons as to why that relationship will not work out. One reason is that, it derives from selfish motives. If I go into a relationship just because I can’t wait to touch or have sexual intimacy with that person, than I am only concerned with my own feelings or pleasures in the relationship. In example, a couple is hanging out in a movie theater, the guy reaches over and tries to grab his girlfriend’s breast. He is thinking “Score! I get to see what a boob feels like!” and she is thinking “Oh my goodness, I can’t believe he just touched me there! How dare he!?” and hopefully out respect for herself the girl will speak up. The second reason is, by a result of this action it now causes confrontation. It is going to most likely cause a argument over the fact that he has disrespected her by putting his hands where they are not suppose to be. Which could lead to a break-up, or I have another scenario. Let’s say she doesn’t say anything because she wants him to “like her”, so she stays quiet. The next time they hang out in her room watching a movie and he decides ok, she let me touch her breast the other day, let’s see how far I can go now! So he proceeds to take off her shorts… by this point we would hope as Christians, that she would stand up for herself and say “No! Stop!”. Thus causing her parents to come in and enforcing them to break up. These are just a few of the small reasons why having sexual intimacy as a goal can lead to destruction of a relationship.